An interesting concept

Here is an interesting concept.  I have regularly had people say to me you can choose how to react.I have just read in my Existential therapy book that this is not always the case and actually it is true but I have let people imprint on me that I can choose how to react, I feel the fool now, because it's so obvious.

Highly trained soliders go to war, ready and experienced to fight, they get on the battlefield and freeze. 

No-one truly knows how they will react in any given real-life moment. Why I have let people get into my head and tell me otherwise when I know this already, we don't know how we will react, we have no choice. 

 If we feel like answering back...answer back, if we feel like crying...cry, if we feel like dancing...dance. some people even laugh when anxious or scared...laugh.It's OK.

I heard this most when I was told to not answer emails straight way (don't reply in anger) and I believed this....No...listen to your body, listen to yourself, react how you need to react not forced by choice or by others. 

 If you feel like holding off from answering an email, hold off. But if you feel like going in gun blazing then do so also.